Anxiety can be the result of abusive behaviors and traumatic experiences but we all must know that verbal abuse also play a huge role.
Sticks and stones may break your bones and words….they can make more damage .
Verbal abuse :
- or just plain wrong
- had someone in your face yelling
- been called names
- is a form of abuse and it’s NOT okay !
Verbal abuse – the worst kind
Bullying, cyber bullying or domestic abuse, verbal onslaughts affects the connection between the right and left hemisphere of the brain. Considering our brain develops over time, for many years, the developmental process is affected by this violent verbiage.
If abused as children, then as adults, we look at the world in a completely different way than those who were not abused. Anxiety is one of the results of verbal abuse.
Observations show the truth
Young adults between 18-25, scientists observed and were able to tell the difference between those who suffered from anxiety and depression as opposed to those who did not.
Those who did suffer from anxiety and depression were also former victims of verbal abuse.
These same individuals which experienced verbal abuse, went through this trauma during middle school years, a time when the brain is developing at its highest rate.
Verbal abuse/emotional abuse
Verbal and emotional abuse are similar and when someone is verbally abused, it affects them emotionally.
Some words even used passively, can cause severe damage to the self-esteem and emotions. This can act as a domino effect, causing disruptions in the victim’s work, relationships and home life, even years later.
Then anxiety will kick in, which will then become a rather uncontrollable response to otherwise normal changes in life. You can see the connection between these things and even imagine the permanent and detrimental damage that can and will be done to the brain and its structures.
Now, let me be frank with you
Immediate consequences and long-term effects will take their place . Here are a few examples of the damage that can be done just by speaking harshly. All these things can be directed linked to anxiety disorders, by the way. This is going to make you think about what you say beforehand, trust me.
- Difficulties in personal communication
- Tendency toward over analysis
- Lowered self-esteem and diminished enthusiasm toward life
- Impaired decision making
Long-term effects may be more chronic:
- Migraines and other chronic pain tendencies
- Digestive disorders, including IBS and other gut issues
- Anxiety, depression, and other emotional trauma
- Eating disorders
All potential consequences of words used poorly—verbal abuse is no laughing matter!
Be careful with how we use our words, and when we see someone else being verbally or emotionally abused, be a friend in their corner. No one deserves that.
Signs of Verbal Abuse
People who have the tendency to abuse someone verbally use name calling as a tactic that helps them manipulate and give people orders to do something they want to. It is a very dangerous and damaging habit.
Behind Closed Doors
Many times the verbal abuse will occur when you are starting to gain a little enthusiasm. If you seem happy, notice how the abuser will swoop in and start criticizing you.The abuser is afraid of losing control when you’re happy. I will even surmise to say that if they aren’t the source of your happiness, they become petrified and use abuse to gain control again.
Attacks the victim’s interests
The abuser will attack the things that the victim loves to do. If you are able to function enough to enjoy something on your own, the abuser will degrade what you do. Notice how your abuser never likes the things that you are interested in. It’s a clue.
Sadly, most abusers almost never apologize or even acknowledge their wrong doings in the first place. To them, they are always in the forefront and are always right about everything.
If you notice and are a witness of this type of verbal exchange, and if you spot an abuser by ending the topic because they don’t even want to discuss, you may are witnessing signs of regular abuse.
The victim of a verbal abuser will always feel isolated from other people, namely family, and friends. The abuser feels that once you’re isolated, they have full control to make you into whatever they want.
Live healthy and plain live…